I have talked to her before about my relationship, and she knows my husband.
I saw her recently and was talking about how he is changing jobs in work (not his choice, but happens in his line of work so not a surprise), and I said I'm worried about childcare as I work weekends, and don't want to keep putting on my parents, and she said I should be able to give up my job if I want as it would solve the problem, (work less than 8 hours a week) and I should discuss it at least as an option.
I said there is no point discussing it, he won't let me give up, and would shut the discussion straight down.
I've never felt like decisions are joint, he is very black and white about things, and can't see other people's views/opinions. He is used to being in charge in work, and people not questioning him, and when I asked him about childcare he just casually said don't worry we will sort it! I asked how, he said we will cross that bridge when we come to it!
This is one thing in a long line, and I do think his behaviour is controlling sometimes, but she said his behaviour is controlling (I didn't mention that word, she did) and said something like this would be a deal breaker for her.
But then goes on to say he's not a bad person, and he doesn't know he is doing it, he doesn't mean to be.
I'm so confused, does that mean it's not as bad as I think, or is she minimizing his behaviour?
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Friend thinks my husbands behaviour is controlling, but ok because he doesn't realise he is doing it
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LittleMissGeneric · 29/12/2015 00:36
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