I have been with DH for 15 years, 3 kids. Youngest is only 18 months and it probably doesn't help matters that he's an awful sleeper.
We have some issues. Not big things, but niggling things that are getting worse because they are not addressed.
I feel like they would be resolvable if only he would open up and talk. But he won't. Any attempt at discussion is shut down and taken as a personal attack. So:
- if it can be denied, it will be. "Why are you upset with me?" "I'm not"
- if it can't be denied, he'll claim it's not a big issue
- if that doesn't work, he'll huff "Well fine, I won't do X any more then, if it annoys you so much".
I just don't know how on earth to open up communication. In the past, it was less of a problem. There were fewer issues pre kids and he's also closed down more over the years.
I don't want to get to breaking point, but I can see that it might happen within the next few years if things keep building.