ExH cheated on me our whole relationship. We were together 20 years. I had no fucking clue, until his mate told me. It turned out that ExH had tried it on with every single female in our friendship group. Tried to fondle and snog them etc. One night his mate told me, as he was annoyed that ExH had tried to seduce his wife. Well, I was devastated! His mate told me he'd been the same with all the other women in the group. So I asked all my mates and they confirmed it.
I am annoyed no-one told me, but can understand they didn't want to rock the boat.
Oh, and he shagged by BF as well.
What I really don't get, is this:
- His whole family know what he did, but when I left him (after 4 years of trying to get past it), they cut all contact. Have never seen or heard from them since. Their stance is "Well he had a bit of fun, but you broke up a family" (worse sin)
- All our mutual friends still love him to bits. None of the husbands (bar the one who told me) hold any grudge that he tried to get into their wives knickers.
Is this not bloody weird? This fuels his argument that it was all a bit of slap and tickle. He tried to shag them all. FFS.
Not a massive issue now as I've moved on and remarried, but I'll never ever get my head around these bizarre reactions from my friends and my Ex Family in laws.