I'm really hoping that I can get some good advice on here!
I am in my early 20's and live with my boyfriend. We have been together for the best part of 7 years.
I have always had this nagging feeling what it would be like to be with someone else. You see when I met my boyfriend we were at school and didn't do the usual dating thing. He loves and absolutely adores me however recently I have been feeling lonely in my relationship and resentful of him. I wonder whether I love him but I am not in love with him, if that makes any sense?
To confuse matters even more for a few months now I have been having increasing feelings for someone else. The connection with the other person is mutual and we very much like each other. This other person wants to be with me, he said he has never been in love but thinks he is starting to love me. I think about him all day everyday and miss him when I don't see him (I know I'm such a bad person). This is absolutely killing me, I cry everyday and regularly go to bed before 9 as I'm just emotionally exhausted. This other person isn't putting any pressure on me to leave, he says that I need to take some time to figure out exactly what I want and that he ultimately just wants me to be happy with my decision. Just to be clear though I can't really express how much I think myself and this other person feel about each other and I appreciate how probably stupid this sounds.
Back to my boyfriend. He is the nicest person you will ever meet and everyone says so. I guess this is part of the reason I feel so utterly dissapointed in myself at how I feel. He would be absolutely devastated if we split, he told me recently that he will try so hard to make me happy and that I am his world.
So right now I am trying to give my relationship a chance and also trying to ascertain whether I am truly unhappy regardless of the other person as I know that is important. I don't want to be this kind of person, it's killing me, I've lost nearly 3/4 stone in 2 months and I'm small anyway.
I just really want some advice from some impartial people. I appreciate the grass isn't always greener on the other side but if I feel like this now, will I always feel this way?
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Fromtheoutside · 27/11/2015 09:58
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