Since the split with controlling, abusive ex in the summer, he has become increasingly hostile and its reached the point where communication (unless written) has totally broken down. He's very manipulative and clever (most of it is done behind my back) so it's hard to pull him up on anything.
At drop-off time with our DC he now won't speak to me at all but directs all questions/statements through our son (who is 4). He never offers up any information about what DC has done with his weekend, or what any plans are coming up (so I can pack clothing etc accordingly) and I'm left to glean what's going on through DC. I do ask ex questions or for feedback on things but he gives very little away. I'm trying really hard not to pester DC with questions as it's not fair on him, he's only 4.
I know ex is getting a real kick out of refusing to communicate properly with me. Neither of us have family nearby I could use as a go-between and I've lost my social circle as ex has spread lies about me.
I've thought about suggesting a contact diary for us both to fill in so we can give information to each other, but no doubt he will refuse. I suppose I could go through the solicitor but as I don't have much money I can't really afford to spend the money - we have the divorce looming and he's fighting every step.
Any suggestions on what to do?
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MrsClusterfuck · 12/10/2015 12:32
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