Hi all
Going to try not to waffle on too much here.
Got involved with D in Feb this year after meeting through a friend. Both with baggage & a bit terrified after being treated badly by exes. I fell for him very quickly. He was a slow burner. I couldn't handle the lack of balance (talked & said he wasn't as into it as me). I have a fear of abandonment & finished it after 5 months-have done this loads in relationships throughout my life).
I decided to get some counselling as knew I needed to try & sort these abandonment & trust issues (I have always believed every boyfriend is going to leave-stems from my childhood) Also knew I still had feelings for D, but denied this to myself & everyone.
He wrote me (long) emails/sent texts saying how gutted he was & how he missed me. We have mutual friends . They said he was 'in bits'. I didn't believe any of it & carried on with counselling & trying to move on.
NC for weeks & then 2 wks ago I had a v strong urge to text him. We ended up meeting for coffee. We have been spending time together again & have slept together a few times.
I have never done this and always said 'never go back'.
I feel stronger & better than when we were together before. I have told him that getting back together is not an option currently & we both agree we need to talk a lot about what went wrong before & establish whether we both want if we are gonna try & move forward. I feel more together since I had counselling & am enjoying being in the moment with him (I have great friends, a brilliant daughter, a job and lots going on to keep me out of mischief as well)
Just wondering if any MNers have broken up & got back together with it being more positive the second time around?
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Robotgirl · 10/10/2015 14:34
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