I separated from my husband of 10 years ago in late June, then in early August I signed up to some internet dating sites 'for a laugh' (or so I thought at the time, although now I realise it was more to seek validation).
The very first man I started chatting to seriously, the first man I went on a date with, and the first man I DTD with is now occupying nearly all of my waking thoughts.
He is attractive, intelligent, kind and HOT lol. He has all of the nerdy qualities I like in a man, and is SO SO different from my stbxh. He's an academic, speaks 5 languages, and just does it for that part of me that likes brains in a man.
So, I don't know whether to trust this feeling I have about him?? Is it possible to find someone so soon after a breakup that has left me so devastated? Am i projecting something onto this new man that has nothing to do with who he really is? Am I just going gaga because he's African and exotic and I've never dated anyone non-Anglo-Australian before?
Sorry, this is a rambling post. i just need to know whether to:
A. Calm down, stop obsessing, stay celibate and give myself time to heal, or
B. Calm down, stop obsessing, and just enjoy the attentions of a hot-to-trot man with brains and other ahem non-academic skills
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Is it possible to meet the 'next big thing' straight after a marriage separation, or am I on the rebound?
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GrammarTool · 25/09/2015 14:19
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