Hi all! Nothing hugely wrong except I don't think I love my partner anymore! I think he knows but neither of us can say it if that makes sense? I've always been useless with telling it as it is. I have been with DP for 15 years and dumped my then boyfriend of 4 years (me and my ex first started going out when I was 14 and he 15) to be with him although I'd never met him! Long story short I used to babysit for my DP's sister who kind of set us up, me being young and naïve thought the grass was greener on the other side! I took a lot of stick from a lot of people (who I knew and went to school with me and my ex) I knew in the little village I lived in but moved away and in with DP and parents after 6 months. I basically gave up college and worked several different jobs in the next few years before settling in a job for 6 years and blissfully happy (we had also moved 3 times in that time too). I eventually found the perfect job which I love, became pregnant and had my DS (2 1/2 years). Since having my DS, our relationship has deteriorated in many ways. I just don't see him in the way I used to you, can't bear the thought of him touching me, he's a pretty good dad but in other ways isn't (short tempered, saying things you shouldn't to a toddler, expecting too much from him etc). He also doesn't help much around the house - this has already resulted in a heated discussion (once DS in bed) with it laid out that unless things changed he'd be moving out!
The complication is I can't stop thinking about my ex all these years later!
I almost want DP to go and leave me (I know that I won't be getting back with my ex - he's moved on) but then feel sad at the thought our DS won't have his Mum and Dad together! I almost feel I should stick with it until he's left school and then I can move on and it won't affect him like it would at his age now.
I feel really bad, sad and disgusted with myself for feeling like this but I don't know what to do or think anymore. I know its hard for my DP as he doesn't know what's going on with me! Am I being irrational, am I depressed (I don't feel I am), is the lack of sex me thinking about ex, new contraception I've started or just the fact I don't love DP anymore?
I don't have anyone to talk to as all my friends are also friends or wives/girlfriends of DP friends! My Mum wouldn't understand (I don't think).
I just needed an outlet and know none of you can really help as it's my decision(s) but wondered what your thoughts were?
Thanks for reading x
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