My brother makes me unhappy.
There is 2 years between us, I'm 32; he is 30.
He has Aspergers. This means he struggles a lot, mainly socially. He would like a partner, a family, but as soon as he meets a girl who he likes, rather than asking her out for a drink, he bombards her with text messages telling her how much he likes her, wants to be with her all time, reacts jealously and abusively when she wants a day away from him. Last girl he liked wanted a day away from him to visit her sick father in hospital and he accused her of cheating on him and said she must not want him anymore if she wants a day away from him. He just doesn't get it.
He only ever contacts me if he needs something. Money usually. I do get it back eventually but I usually have to badger him for it. In his logic, I earn more than him, so I shouldn't ask for it back, it should be a gift.
Most recently, he called me wanting me to write a new CV for him. He wanted this doing within 2 days. When I said that I had plans with dp and our dcs and did not have the time in the next 2 days to help him, he started swearing at me so I hung up on him.
He is the same with our dm. He wants her to drive him everywhere. She's afraid to refuse him the things he wants.
He makes me unhappy. But he's my only brother, and he has special needs. Should I go nc? please don't tell me to talk to him about his behaviour as he genuinely doesn't think he is in the wrong.
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should I go nc with my brother?
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Alisabelle · 19/08/2015 12:30
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