Hi everyone,
This is likely to be a wordy message so I apologise in advance. I'm after some advise from neutral people on the situation I find myself on with my ex partner. He left me last November when our daughter was 7 months old and a week later started seeing our neighbour 3 doors away ( apparently he wasn't cheating!!) and they now live together, 3 doors away.
they have a very volatile relationship. In February this year she attacked him in his car while our daughter was in there, she also attacked him a few weeks ago when he came round to mine to take our daughter out. Both times she told the police he attacked her (I saw this was not true) and he was arrested and released without charge. He also has scars all over him from the numerous times she has attacked him when they are at home. The police have also been called to his parents when she turned up in the middle of the night and tried to hit him. They used to have my daughter 2 days a week but all communication had to go through her (my ex was not allowed to contact me). She ended up telling him he wasn't allowed to see my daughter. She had also said some very horrible things about my daughter (which I could not put on here as I wouldn't want to offend anyone). Along with all this my ex has a serious drugs problem and regularly goes on 4 day benders and has ended up in hospital 4 times in the last few weeks due to overdosing. His new girlfriend has also asked him to prove how much he loves her by organising for me to be killed!! She has also called social services about me, with no actual reason. I also know that she has serious mental health issues.
This morning my ex text me and said he wanted him and his girlfriend to take our daughter out for the day tomorrow and I said no. With everything that's happened I don't want my daughter around them as I don't think she will be safe, especially as she has a real problem with her and social services had advised me to seriously think if I wanted them as a couple to be around my daughter. This has gone down like a lead balloon and I have now been told they will make my life hell and not worth living.
I suppose I'm just looking for advise, do you think I've done the right thing and where do I go from here? Should I contact social services myself and start this as a legal thing?
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Should I stop him seeing our Daughter??
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Sogo1 · 14/08/2015 12:35
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