I have posted before, the same thing and advice has always been helpful:) I left exh over two years ago, three dcs and when mediation was attended to arrange contact he refused to commit to anything due to his work(self employed, can pick and choose his work) and the best he would do was to advise me each week whether he would like dcs the following sat/sun or not at all, holidays he expects the same to be able to just pick and choose what suits him from week to week. I have never and would never stop him seeing them(despite how I may feel) but this 'arrangement' is starting to cause possible problems, I never know what his wishes are until the middle of each week, dcs have now got activities on a Saturday morning and one dcs is hoping to play football on Sunday's,something he has been desperate to do but obviously commitment is required and I need to get him to matches etc he can get a lift some weeks. I don't think it's fair to stop dcs doing their chosen activities just in case he wants them. To my mind, he should be prepared to have them every other weekend (or even one weekend a month) that way he can sort their activities and see them for the weekend - would this be reasonable? I can't see him agreeing, he just refuses to commit to anything, however, the alternative is dcs doing nothing or problems because he wants to see them but arrangements have been made because other people involved with giving eldest dc lifts to football etc. I am finding this hard now and I am unsure how to go about sorting the issue out, I am still afraid to confront him, he makes me feel very silly and as if I am the one being unreasonable. Any advice appreciated, thank you
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