I really hope I don't come across narrow minded, but I am really embarrassed, often ashamed of my family. Up until now, I've managed to keep DH's family at a distance from my own to avoid embarrassment, however this isn't an option anymore as next week is my Son's christening and both sides of the family will be there.
DH's family are well mannered people, educated and very self sufficient where as many of my relatives are scruffy, don't work, smoke, have a crude sense of humour and are not well educated, although some of them can be well meaning.
My Father is a waste of space alcoholic who systematically lets us down whenever he offers to help with anything and my mother is a selfish woman who will very much refuse to make conversation with people nor help with anything.
DH's parents are helpful to the point of over-bearing and often question why my parents are absent during important times in our lives. I've gotten over the huge upset and disappointment that my parents' lack of interest has caused over the years, but I know it has become very apparent to DH's family of late and it makes me nervous.
There is a family meal after the christening which I am a bit nervous about as we will all be sitting in close proximity to each other. My own parents will undoubtedly label DH's family as boring because they dont drink, smoke or crack crude jokes;, my Dad will become loud and opinionated after a couple of drinks and my Mum will rudely ignore everyone. This aside, they both adore my Son and I would like them to be a part of the day.
How can I enjoy it without being on pins?
How do I get over the shame and embarrassment of my family when in the presence of DH's?
And do you think my family's behaviour will reflect badly on me in the eyes of DH's family?
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pastaratatouille · 30/07/2015 20:13
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