Ok, long story...almost 3 years ago I broke up with long term partner and father to my kids. 2 years ago I met a man over the internet, same age as me but lived miles away. We met up and decided to do the long distance thing. A number of things put me off him:
- still lived with his mother
- wasin loads of debt (around £20k's worth).
- Treated money like water, would spend all his wages on xbox games, dvd's, clothes...he saved nothing, paid his mum nothing and was continuously borrowing from her.
- he started getting above his stations with my kids, telling them off all the time, being snappy with them, shouting at them..
- I got a bit paranoid that he was using me as a way of getting out of his parents home as I already had a house that he was intending to move into.
- he was very lazy, constantly "tired" and would lie in bed for most of the day when he came down to see me.
Anyway, to cut a very long story short I eventually got sick of him, it was like dating a teenager and we split up, we were together for a year and a half.
We have continued to speak on msn as friends, he has come down here twice since, first time out of the blue trying to talk me around and the second time he told me that he would be coming down to collect his stuff that he still had at my house.
We havnt seen each other for months now but here is the complicated bit...
I don't have any friends that actually go out or do anything other than sit in the house watching tv, this is the only thing I miss about this man, we did go out now and again!
I will be spending christmas on my own which I don't mind but I really wasnt looking forward to spending new years eve stuck in the house on my own...this is when he asked if I fancied going on on new years eve, just as friends...rightly or wrongly, I agreed.
So now this is planned but what is worrying me is that he makes it obvious that he still has feelings for me, from my point of view there is no way in hell that we'd ever get back together but I wanted to make sure he felt the same.
So last night on msn I brought it up in conversation that we were only going out as friends on NYE and that we would never get back together, he went all moody and depressive saying I had no need to bring all that up and that I should just relax and see "what happens" and "take things as they come" etc...he also said I'd spoilt his NYE now as he's going to be walking on egg shells in case he says anything that I take the wrong way. Personally I think it needed to be brought up so that we both knew where we stood!
So, what are your opinions on the whole situation?