Hi
I posted on here a couple of weeks ago as my husband had just walked out on our 17 marriage and 4 children after i discovered he had been having an affair for a year.
We have been for one councilling session which was fantastic. He said he wanted us to make a go of it. Which i think deep down i really want to happen.
We had a fantastic day together - like his old self again but the next day when he went to work he was very very low again (he had seen OW). He says he just needs space and time to get over it. I am worried because i think he does have depression - but he says it is all self inflicted so doesnt need any help.
He has been a fantastic dad and i know he really loves the kids and is missing them.
I have not stopped him seeing them but at the moment they think it is all good fun - which hurts me.
This weekend because i am fed up with the arranging everything i said he should come here and join in with our family again.
If he wants to make a go of it it has to start somewhere!
He was very down yesterday and left again last night (he had spent friday night here).
He has just phoned to ask us all out to lunch.
I just feel i dont know what is best. I do think i want him back I know there is a lot of work to do and it wont be easy.
Do you think there is any hope or should i just accept that i will have a single life and become strong. I was begining to get stronger - which i think he liked. But this is just sending me back down again.
I worry that the longer he stays away the harder it will be to get back on track - or do you think i should give him some space to come to his senses? and how long will that take?
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hurtwife · 19/11/2006 07:03
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