First time poster so please be gentle, and apologies, it's long....
Have been with DP for 18mths. Messy start to the relationship, he had a partner but they had split up due to him not wanting to get married or have kids, they were still living together as he needed to find a job after graduating from Uni (he's late 30's, I'm 35) he found a job, came to stay with me for a 'few weeks' but everything went well so he moved in with me and DC's permanently at the end of April '14. At the end of March he went to stay with his sister for the weekend as it was her birthday. It was a bit too soon for meeting the family so I didn't go, was absolutely fine with that. To cut a long story short, last night I found some strong evidence on social media that what I thought was his ex girlfriend by that point was also there that weekend, He didn't mention anything at the time. She lives quite far away from said sister so won't have just been popping by or anything.
I don't know how I feel about this, Should something that happened that long ago have an impact on what is now a strong relationship? I have no doubts that he loves me, tells me so all the time, tells me that he's so happy here with me and the kids, makes me feel loved BUT there's a voice inside telling me that what appears to be going away with his 'ex' girlfriend for the weekend when I was under the impression that we were in an exclusive relationship is a shitty thing to do. They were together for a long time so I appreciate that she will have been close to his family, but it's still messing my head up.
I really don't want to cause an argument about this but I'm feeling so confused. Any advice is greatly appreciated and thanks for taking the time to read.
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Slutmonkey · 07/07/2015 07:00
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