How to break a date with family members?

[beckyb123]

I am known to be a 'good listener' and several family members have confided in me recently some things I am uncomfortable with, nothing illegal or dangerous. I don' t want to meet up with them tomorrow but they are expecting me to attend a fundraising event at their home tomorrow. I agreed to go a couple of weeks ago when I was feeling fine but have changed my mind (er.. can't be ar**d anymore). What's the easiest way to drop out?

[patienceisvirtuous]

You should honour your commitment.

Or selfishly drop out with "I can't make it anymore because I can't be arsed."

[Smartiepants79]

I suppose it depends on how close the family is. What kind of event it is. And if you wish to be honest or not!
Illness or similar would work but be lying.
Is it the kind of event you'll be really missed at?
Can you not just go for and hour then head off again?
Do you mind potentially upsetting them?

[patienceisvirtuous]

Or... 'Since you told me you're having an affair (or whatever uncomfortable truth they told you) I don't want to come to your event anymore.'

[pocketsaviour]

Sudden attack of stomach flu should work.

[MatildaTheCat]

Migraine. you lot have given me a headache

[Janette123]

Beckyb123,
You must honour the commitment you made.
However, if any of them start telling you their business again shut them down fast. Tell them that you're sorry but you really don't want to listen to their problems as the stuff they are revealing you isn't appropriate, and it's put you in a difficult position.
Or you could suggest they talk to a trained counsellor

[beckyb123]

felt guilty, went to event, won cuddly toy-stuffed gorilla in the raffle. Told 2 people that they need to seek professional help. The scones were yummy. Families eh?

[Anniegetyourgun]

Glad it went ok. Pic of gorilla please!