My husband has a hobby he loves (classic cars). However in recent years it's turned into something of an obsession.
It's all he talks about, wants to do. Whilst he says this is not true, it feels like that to me. I feel like he is constantly trying to 'escape' me so he can spend time doing what he really loves.
On paper, he would argue that that's rubbish. We do spend a lot of time together.
He recently had a big bonus from work. Money has been tight recently and this could get us back on track. He has agreed to pay for our holiday this year as I can't afford it (I earn less than he does).
However he is immediately looking at a new car. It's not the money that bugs me, I know it's his bonus etc and the car he's looking at is far less expensive than the new cars our friends drive.
I said he needed to wait a while but it looks like he's ignored me as he's taken the number of the car for sale he fancies.
It's the fact that this is his first thought. He hasn't even been paid yet and already he's thinking purely about the car he's going to buy. Not what we could do in the garden, or the house, or what we might like to do together.
I can't get through to him that it's his priorities that upset me - the mental headspace things are ordered in, rather than how much his car costs.
Even if he turned up with a bunch of flowers it might make a bit of a difference.
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Fed up of husband's hobby
recyclingbag · 23/06/2015 16:29
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