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Can a relationship survive without intimacy?

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Shootingstar2289 Sun 31-May-15 21:01:48

I have been with my other half for three years and I am 30 weeks pregnant with our baby - I already have a son with my ex.

Anyway, my partner is my dream man in many ways. He's caring, committed, generous, unselfish, I can tell him anything and he listens! I trust him fully.

However, we rarely have intercourse. Maybe twice a month, if that. Cannot really blame it on the pregnancy as it wasn't great before to be honest. But it's become less since.

Neither of us have a high sex drive - never been one to have it every night. But I think 2-3 times a week would be nice as I still feel quite comfortable at the minute lol.

When we do, it's fantasric but sometimes I show an interest and he isn't bothered or we just fall asleep.

I've had past relationships with better sex lives but they lacked the trust, commitment and I couldn't talk to them like I do my partner.

Can a good relationship last without intimacy?

Sometimes, it makes me feel down that we do not get intimate often and it's just going to get worse as time goes on..

We have had fall outs and upset over this..

StillStayingClassySanDiego Sun 31-May-15 21:20:42

Your frustration and want of more sex is apparent from your post.

I think you neec to address this issue within your relationship.

deckthehallswithdesperation Sun 31-May-15 22:12:05

Can a relationship last without intimacy? in a word - nope. I speak as one who learnt the hard way.

pocketsaviour Sun 31-May-15 22:19:24

Not IME.

newnamesamegame Sun 31-May-15 23:22:07

I think plenty of relationships can and do survive less intimacy -- or sex, which is specifically what you mean -- than yours. Twice a month is more than in a lot of marriages. I don't think there's any prescribed amount of sex a couple should be having.

But its your relationship and its what you want that counts. If you are not happy with it and your partner isn't able to/willing to address it then its unlikely to survive.

What has he said when you've raised it in the past?

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