My DD is part of a friendship group who met at university. They are now in their mid 20s, highly educated young women and economically independent. One of their number is in a relationship that has turned controlling and abusive. They don't think physically, but certainly emotionally. They only met 4 months ago, but he demands that all her non-working hours are spent with him, won't let her see friends/family, reads her phone, criticises her appearance/clothes etc, and when she displeases him in some way tells her she has 12 hours to make it up to him. DD says he comes across as clever and charming to start with, but he sounds like a sociopath. Her friends are very worried about her. Despite her achievements she suffers from chronic lack of self-esteem, making her a perfect victim for this man.
DD called me last night to ask how do they help? Dealing with the practicalities will be fine (place to stay, any legal stuff etc etc) but the woman needs to decide to leave him first and they worry that if they go in too hard she'll just cut them off. Just saying "we're here for you" feels to them too soft. They've considered "kidnapping" her and delivering her to her parents for a few days so she gets space to think. Any other ideas MN friends?
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bachsingingmum · 28/05/2015 09:09
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