I have ended things with my DP of 3 years.
He refused to do a 40 minute commute to live with me (after I had moved to his are and lived happily with him for 14 months) when I started a new job - he had known about the contract starting for this job before we even moved in.
He talked to his mum about the relationship and took her advice on not to move in with me to the middle to accomodate both our jobs...months later she suggested she moved in with him!
When we had a disagreement before Xmas, (something he had lied about and I was very upset), his reaction was to not speak to me for a week. When I honestly done nothing wrong apart from react to a very big lie and be upset by it.
There is more but that's the essence. Posters will remember me I think...embarrassing as that is.
So I ended it after he took the weekend not speaking to me...he apparently wanted some headspace as we had 'spoken loads,' (he's working away, and we had spoken once a day briefly). He didn't tell me he wanted headspace, he just decided not to talk to me, so I spent my bank holiday worrying about him and if something had happened. When I ended it, he got a bit nasty and said he wanted to end it anyway and told me to F off.
I am having a wobble thinking did I make him this way? When we met he was so lovely to me and was so attentive and kind and seemed to be sincere. I feel like I caused this and it's stopping me moving forwards confidently.
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Ending it and feeling like you messed up. Confused and sad.
doneitnow · 26/05/2015 09:31
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