Can you check a yahoo email account in secret?

[badbadleroybrown]

... Or does the last log in date and time always give it away?

Hope that makes sense.

[Cassie258]

I have yahoo. When I get to work I will check for you. I've never seen last log in date anywhere tho but I've never looked.

[badbadleroybrown]

It's grey font. Top right corner or maybe left above your emails. Thank you for checking

[Cassie258]

Can't see anything. I'm using chrome and windows 8.

It says 'recent activity' when I g I into account activity and has item that says Colchester England. Nothing more. Odd as I don't think I'm even near there but it does have a location right now thing that was spot on. Unsure where it was tho

[badbadleroybrown]

Ok. Thank you Cassie.

Have a good weekend X

[coolaschmoola]

I use yahoo and have never noticed anything like that.

[Cassie258]

Is there a bigger issue that needs to be addressed to? We can help?

I have a junk email account if you want to have a play. I think I've seen what you describe on gmail.

[badbadleroybrown]

Aw thank Cassie. I found a secret email that my OH used. Fearing the worst I checked it but it seems to be just porn x

[Greta28]

Does it not bother you that he has secrets from you though..? Would you have a secret account from him, if not, why not?

[badbadleroybrown]

It's not ideal but we've been through a LOT re: porn and we've just got to a happy medium so I think, naturally he's very guarded about it.

I have/had Dad issues and this manifested itself into a repulsion to porn and it has always been a part of OH's life so we had to find a way to work around it - but that did take years and a lot of screaming, crying, door slamming and therapy.

I'm sure this is all jumbled up x

[Cassie258]

Not all jumbled and makes perfect sense.

Do you feel happy to talk to him about this?

[badbadleroybrown]

Not really. As you can imagine we've talked about it so much over the years and he isn't really a very open person as it is - and I am as you might have guessed so that adds another pressure even though I am so much better. In the sense that therapy has helped my anxiety over the issue. I use to not want towable the house or have a life of my own in fear of what he'd be doing on his laptop when I was out - but I can say genuinely now that I couldn't care less - which as a result has made me feel far more happy and confident xxx it's good to write this down and air it - it's so much in my head xxx

[discophile]

A lot of people have a repulsion to pornography and it has nothing to do with "Dad issues". It is because they think it is totally repulsive and would not want to be with someone who uses it.

[badbadleroybrown]

Yeah, fair enough Disco but I knew with me it was related to Dad issues. I know it's not the same for everyone and I also don't want to start a porn debate x

[discophile]

No. You're right. No debate required.

[Greta28]

I hope you're truly happy now badbad. Everyone deserves to be happy and a partner that they can really trust and 'lean on'. x

[badbadleroybrown]

Thanks Greta. Some days are better than others but overall I am happy. Thanks for all your posts xxx