Apologies as I posted about this before but can't remember my name change (!)
Dp has a very unstable ex-w. They have a ds together who is in year 10. Ex-w is an expert in emotional manipulation. She cannot handle their ds at all who is already drinking regularly and under special watch at private school for his behaviour. She is very well off and has managed to stay out of the notice of social services as they don't access any 'state' services - i.e. the son isn't at state school, they don't use the NHS. There are many more problems that are too long for this post! She has damaged my car (couldn't charge her as her friend was the only witness and she wouldn't give a statement), threatened me in the street. She is very unstable.
Dp was living with me but we had a massive fight about his behaviour - he refused to come to the table and talk to me so I felt I had no option but to ask him to leave. He could have moved in with a friend but would have had to pay whereas he still owns 50% of the house that ex-w lives in so he moved back there into the spare room, also with the hope that he would be able to help ds.
For a few weeks, he carried on with the charade that we could carry on seeing each other but it's not working and we have split up. He wants to carry on seeing me.
The issue now is that ex-w is going completely crazy. Dp is still friendly with me and we bumped into each other at the pub the other day and ex-w insisted on giving him a lift home with their ds in the car so parked right outside the front door waiting. Dp told her where to go but then she threatens him with ds and says I have him in the car, are you going to let your son down? etc She saw me in the street the other day and just hurled abuse out of the car. She is a dreadful liar and I'm actually concerned about taking any formal action against her because I believe she would go to the police/social services with false allegations against us. She can afford the best lawyers in the country. I did call the police once on her and in the end, dp got a telling off because ex-w spun some huge story (totally made up) and in the end, were told to sort it out ourselves.
She's not going anywhere. Nor am I. I did try and approach her to sit down and discuss everything rationally but she refuses.
Incidentally, all dp's other exes have eventually had to leave this area to start again. I only realise this now and think it's significant!
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TwotTwitTwut · 14/05/2015 12:43
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