I'm nearly 30 with a ten year old DS from previous relationship.
My DP is very nearly 50, he has three older children from three different relationships (he isn't a shag-around bastard, it's just how things turned out - two of the relationships were ended by the other partner). The dc are aged 18-25.
I've always been maternal and homely, and would have loved another 1-2 children when in the right relationship. DP has always said he'd like a dc with me too. After lots of discussion though we decided we won't, due to his age, and also the fact that adding a baby in would make everything so much more complicated with our existing kids and life in general. DP doesn't have a good relationship with his eldest dc and they are basically NC (the dc's choice). So on the whole it doesn't feel right to TTC.
However in my group of friends I have many who are about to drop, or have newborns or are now moving onto having dc2. And I felt a strange sadness that this won't be me. DP says he is happy with or without a dc between us, obviously he's done his fair share of dc-raising.
DP gets on so well with my ds, treats him like his own. We have a brilliant relationship. I want a happy stable relationship and the opportunity to try for another baby, but feel like I can't have both. I am aware that sounds selfish and greedy, especially as I already have my ds.
I don't know how to sort my head out, or if I can ever get the baby-longing out of my system.
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NutellaOnCrumpets · 03/05/2015 14:01
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