Dog house

[petitcouchon]

I am in the dog house again. Todays reason, I invited a friend around for dinner. Me and Dp have lived together for 4 years, he's always been a bit odd about people coming around, which I don't understand.

Todays excuses
'the house is a mess' (it's not, I cleaned up his mess before she arrived).
'it was your turn to cook' (She ate at ours, dinner would have been waiting for him when he got in. He's still not back yet yet, after finishing work at 5, sulking somewhere no doubt, so it's now cold, but cooked none the less).
'it is a waste of an evening'
'why does it have to be a week night' (he objects far more to a weekend as it ruins his days off work).

Am I being blind here and missing something or is he being ridiculously unreasonable? As mentioned, he's still not home but when he arrives It will be one almighty row and it will all be my fault, he's never wrong. I've already had a few strongly worded messages from him, F this, F you.. Urgh!

[bakingtins]

You're not missing something. I think it's traditional to ask if he has redeeming features?

[star8369]

it's not you, it's him, he is a dick

[petitcouchon]

Thanks for your replies. I should add this is a friend from school, so we have been friends for a very long time, and this was the first time she has stepped foot in our house, after living here for 4 years. I usually put people off to avoid the fall out afterwards. But I couldnt keep putting her off, it's ridiculous! God, that is so embarrassing

[petitcouchon]

Oh and redeeming features/good points, he can be lovely. He more than pulls his weight with chores, we can have a real laugh together. When it's just us....He's just massively antisocial (with my friends or family, different story with his) and has his head up his arse sometimes hence he is never ever wrong. Hard work!

[Coyoacan]

Mmm, petit, I personally hate anyone who isolates their partner from their friends and family. To my mind that is abuse, usually accompanied by other forms of abuse.