scared to confront him!!!!

[username88]

I've been with my OH for over 7 years and we have 2 small children. He has always been someone that talks to females etc and he's very friendly and helpful.
He has 2 females in particular that he speaks to via text etc. Back last year I saw a message that he sent to a friend saying that female 1 offered to have sex with him. This made me very angry and paranoid. We then went somewhere and female 1 was there and she completely ignored me and just spoke to him which rang alarm bells in my ears. A few months later I explained to him that I don't trust female 1 and explained why. He then told me that he no longer speaks to her etc. But then recently he started speaking to her again and told her that he doesn't speak to her anymore because of me (which I think is completely blowing my trust to divulge that). The conversation continued and female 1 asked if I read the messages between them his reply was 'no otherwise I would be a single man'.

Moving on to female 2

He speaks to this one more regularly. He divulges intimate stuff about our relationship (which again is betraying trust). He refers to her as looking like sex to his friends. I've read a message before saying that 'if only I was a few years younger and single I would make you my queen'. Just that little snippet of a message cut me deep because he refers to me as his queen.

I feel like I can't confront him about any of this because I got paranoid and hacked into his fb account. I check it every day more than once And when there is messages they get deleted Before he comes home.

I love him so much and really don't want to lose him. But I don't know what to do. Whenever I've tried to slyly asking him questions he turns it back around to me. It's eating me up inside and I can't talk to anyone about it.

[ShizeItsWeegie]

Stop checking and leave. That text alone would be enough for me.

[afreshstartplease]

You need to confront him

This man is no good for you

[louisejxxx]

Clear LTB if ever I saw one. Have it out with him then kick him to the kerb....He doesn't deserve you!!

[CogitoErgoSometimes]

What do you 'love so much' exactly? His total faithlessness? His zero respect for you? Absence of a conscience? Ability to turn you into a suspicious nervous wreck, hacking FB and having no peace? The way he tells lies like other people breathe?

He's taking you for a fool.

[AHatAHatMyKingdomForAHat]

Why the hell don't you want to lose him?

Anyway, that's beside the point, you have already 'lost' him. You are clinging to a corpse.

[AHatAHatMyKingdomForAHat]

There is no need to confront him. Just leave.

[RandomNPC]

He's a twat, he's playing you for a fool.

[jerryfudd]

I don't get what advice you are after? You know he is treating you appallingly, he's ruining your self esteem and turning you into an snoop. However, you don't want to "lose" him so you just continue with how things are..... Until he sets things up how he wants with either woman 1 or 2 presumably and kicks you to the dirt

[Berrie1]

I'm not sure what advice you are looking for exactly, but if I were in your shoes I would leave. It appears he has no respect for you at all. You deserve much better than that.

[littleleftie]

I wouldn't bother confronting him I would just pack his bags.

[JamesAndTheGiantBanana]

When you say he turns it round to you what do you mean? Like berates you for snooping? Or accuses you of the same thing? Or brings up other things you're meant to have done?