Yeah so basically he'll just randomly go into a "mood" and will refuse to tell me why, instead choosing to insist that it's actually ME that's in a mood with him. It always seems to happen when I need him the most - if I've had a shit day/week, have been looking forward to spending time with him, have had something good happen to me like an achievement -
Perfect example this week. It's been horrendous.
Started off with a load of shit at work, I had a row with a nutty colleague, work load was mental as it was, my 14 year old son is spiraling out of control and I'm receiving constant phonecalls from school, I found out in order to pass my degree I need to sit a 90% pass rate math exam in a few months (I don't 'do' math!) and to top it all off, my mum was diagnosed with a common, non dangerous but still bloody scary form of skin cancer.
So on Wednesday when I found out about the diagnosis DP suddenly starts having a face on with me. Wouldn't say what was wrong, just started being generally 'off' with me. When I asked for a hug he said he was comfy where he was (he was sat in a place he NEVER sits in, miles away from me, naturally specially reserved seating for when I could do with him close) and he said if I wanted a hug I would have to go to him for one. I don't like these power struggles so I just said "no its fine, don't worry about it" so he said "oh? see you can't have been that bothered about a hug can you?" ffs my mum had literally that day been diagnosed with cancer and he's still trying to power struggle and point score with me?
So the next day I'm at work. He sends me a text saying "you hate me again, I can tell :-( xxxxx". I was busy (had two patients die before lunch time) so I just text back "don't be daft, see you later xxx". No reply.
Got home that night, he made himself a drink and didn't ask me if I wanted one. Had a go at me because I walked into the kitchen with my phone in my hand "cant be that bothered about seeing me can you? phone in hand". and continued being stroppy and short with me for the rest of the night until I said "look, either tell me why you're in a mood or pack it in." His reply "it's not me that's in a mood, it's you".
It's so fucking draining. I found myself daydreaming yesterday about being with someone who naturally and autonomously came to hug me after seeing I was upset. Sad isnt it.
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FedUpAnnieAnne · 30/01/2015 11:00
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