DH is too strict with the DCs IMO. He is easily frustrated,impatient and riled by their behaviour to the point where I feel he has lost the joy of being a parent.
Tbf the DCs can be badly behaved, although not terribly so. DD can be very melodramatic, and DS can be cheeky and VERY stubborn. DS's teacher has commented that he can be difficult, although he is very endearing, so DH is not necessarily wrong in expecting better behaviour.
I am not soft at all, but I guess I am more patient (DH thinks I let them get away with murder) and don't like every minute of every day to be angst filled.
The two main issues which tbh cause constant disagreement are:
- DH expects almost Victorian acquiescence. Very little talking at the dinner table (although tbf DS is a poor eater food procrastinator), no talking if watching a (kids) film. He gets frustrated if the DCs hang around us a lot (for example he's annoyed if they linger aimlessly whilst DH and I are chatting) and gets very annoyed with any interruption ( IMO they often linger waiting for us to finish our conversation).
- DH will rant at me about the DCs behaviour almost as though I am solely responsible for it/them. E.g. DS will be cheeky, and DH will then moan to me for 10 mins about how he's fed up with the cheek. So I gave to put up with DSs behaviour AND DHs ranting.
Its all very wearing. What can be done? It is getting me to the point where I just don't want any family time.