Other half watching porn after baby arrived

[cactus123]

Sorry if this is ridiculous but I'm upset... :(

Our baby is 10 weeks now. Since she was born we've been intimate twice. My other half never makes any advances or effort and when I do there's always an excuse... :(

We are usually together most of the time but today I went to see a friend and whilst I was gone I discovered he had been watching porn. This wouldn't usually upset me but considering the fact that he has actively done this when I'm not here and never wants to be intimate with me I've taken it personally...

I've told him that it makes me feel like I'm disgusting and he doesn't want anything to do with me now that my body has changed from carrying and giving birth to his child, but he literally told me I am being ridiculous and that's not the case at all.. And then got angry and told me to F off

I don't know if I'm being silly or if I've got a right to feel like this :(

Opinions?

[theendoftheendoftheend]

I think you have every right to feel like that, he's reaction was pathetic and cruel and will only have confounded how you feel

[Alchemist]

Well, his reaction would have really upset and angered me.

While I'm sure you aren't disgusting at all I do understand you feeling like this. If I recall correctly I was still bleeding (not much but bleeding) at around 8 weeks and I just didn't want sex.

You are not silly and I'm sorry you are hurt. I hope you and DD have a peaceful evening

[Tryharder]

His reaction was nasty and over the top and hopefully this was a one off!

It's normal not to be 'intimate' for many weeks even months after giving birth. Your body needs time to heal plus it's hard to feel sexy when you're knackered and breastfeeding.

Your DH may feel like a discreet wank. His porn usage is something that may or not be acceptable to you but I really wouldn't take it personally.

[Vivacia]

I wouldn't take the porn use personally (it's a reflection on the user, as far as I'm concerned).

I would take the "fuck off" very, very personally. And probably literally.

[HootyMcTooty]

What Vivacia said.

You're perfectly entitled to your reaction and if he can't even be bothered to reassure you, maybe he should fuck off.