My ex husband has never 'forgiven' me for walking away from the marraige. We were ultimately incompatible, he was a bully and emotional abuser, childish and petty, made me suffer silences and sulking, scoffing at my distress and I just felt lost and alone a lot of the time and I couldn't bear to be with him anymore. I have had years since of being emotionally abused, bullied and this extends to the Dc (aged 11 and 14).
My DS hasn't been well for a few days and I didn't send him to his dads for the weekend because of this instead keeping him at home to rest, my DS said he probably would 'be expected' to do things and be up and about if sent to his dads. The dad views it as 'his time' so he would give short shrift to my son being unwell and doesn't really have much compassion. His dad said that was ok not to send him (through my daughter who did go as planned, things are that bad that he messages through her, though I have told him not to
My DS is still not 100% but there is a trip to the panto which was planned for today. I got a message from my daughter to bring my son around at 10am. I questioned why so early (her dad failed to correspond so I had to communicate with my DD She had no reason but alluded her dad said so. The show is not due to start until 1pm. I requested that I bring my DS to the theater doors before the show. His dad then texted me to say bring DS to the town centre at 11am. I texted to say DS wouldn't be up to this and would just go to the show and to tell me the time and I would bring him. I then get back a text saying I am a liar and that if I don't bring DS to the town centre then I obviously don't want DS to 'enjoy himself'. I cannot reason with him he is full of hatred for me. My kids are suffering through his bullying.
I told him by text I can't take this anymore. He replies that he will 'give in to my demands' and to being DS to the theatre doors after all. No mention of how is DS, is he any better , nothing.
This is just a snapshot of the life we are having. I have no family nearby having moved to where his family live when we got married, he wouldn't consider living anywhere else. I feel trapped and alone. I have thoughts of moving back to where i am from (outside UK court durastriction but only an hours flight but there is a contact order in place so the complications would be horrendous)
When does this nightmare end? I don't know how I can bring my kids up with all the stress from him?? Sorry for the length, just need to let this all out somehow.
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How do I live a life with this constant emotional abuse?
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WhatDoesItTake · 28/12/2014 11:33
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