How do I stop myself falling for someone?

[StopppIt]

I find myself falling for someone.
There is one major reason I shouldn't - there is a small possibility that reason might be changeable but, I don't want to be hanging on for that small possibility.
Also, I think we're both just a bit lonely and happen to get on really well, is that enough to start a relationship on?
I'm still getting over the pain of a previous relationship and wish I could just slow my feelings down so it wasn't so easy for me to have feelings for someone else. I need to protect my damaged, bruised heart. I'm terrified of it being broken again.
I feel like I'm not in control of my feelings - any tips on how to exert at least a little control?

[FolkGirl]

Tell yourself that he's married and that's not going to change any time soon; that even if he left her for you, he'd then be the sort of man who'd cheat on his wife; that a relationship with someone who's just left an unhappy marriage is always a bad idea. Physically brace yourself against the feelings of 'falling for him'. Don't indulge it when you do think about him - stop and do something else. Distract yourself with other things.

Because I'm guessing the major reason is his marriage and the small chance is next to none.

[AuntieStella]

Is the reason that the OM/OW is married/attached?

You seem to be saying that a relationship is definitely 'no go' territory. So you must not go there.

So reduce/end contact with this person (and the prospect of pain). What else can you bring into your life (friends, groups, hobbies) that will strengthen you and help you heal?

[StopppIt]

We're both single and have been for a while.

It's more a matter of sexuality which is why I've not given the sex of either of us.

[FolkGirl]

Well if you don't want to fall for them, the advice still stands.

[StopppIt]

Thanks. Am trying to distract myself.
We both really enjoy each other's company and want to keep building a friendship. I don't meet people who I really like very often so I am loathe to throw away this friendship. I suppose I just need to keep my head in the friendship and ignore other feelings.

[JollyJingle]

If it's a same sex relationship then keep the friendship and if the other person has a similar orientation these feelings will probably come out in the end if he/she feels the same. Alternatively just say I'm gay and I value your friendship and see how it goes. I could of course be barking up the wrong tree! We all have friends and their sexual orientation usual doesn't make any difference.