I've always loved the idea of a house move, a new fresh start, bigger rooms etc but my DH seemed to be rather reluctant to do this, even though he was keen 12 months ago.
After talks we decided to compromise by extending where we live now. To cut a long story short, the whole process has taken many, many months of planning, idea's, permission etc and its now turned out that the builder has spent our deposit ( which was quite a lot), on himself, and no longer has it.
To cut a long story short we are not going ahead with the build until next year, and not with this builder, who is now ignoring us totally as we have asked for the money back. My heart is really not in extending anymore and i've tried to explain this to DH. I don't want to be in debt again ( owing a new mortage), and there is so much that needs doing here, as i've said it will be like trying to make a silk purse from a sow's ear.
He is not that happy about it but Dh has told me that ok, he will move, but is not getting involved with any of it at all, so it will all be totally down to me, which is very unfair, but something I can't change! So before I can even consider doing that i'm looking at what needs doing here and wondering if I would actually learn to love it here if it was "freshened up", including the knocking down of an old lean-to and adding a new conservatory, something i've always wanted.
Dh has said that we cannot spend loads on doing up this place, if we are going to move, so its one or the other and I am completely torn.
As it stands I'm sick of looking at this place as it is and all the repairs that need sorting etc, and then on the other hand I'm trying to imagine a new conservatory with double doors, the brightness and new flooring downstairs etc, but I cannot do all that and then say I still want to move.
It would be basic stuff to sort in order to put it on the market, and I doubt we would get back 11,000 from a conservatory if we had that built, but as DH has said the old lean-to we have at the moment is actually taking value away from our house.
Even if we were to wait till next year, there are things that still need sorting here, the biggest being the lean-to.
Any advice or opinions please would be great, as I just don't know what to do for the best.
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I want to move, DH doesn't, Do I make the best of it?
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Tiggs2 · 31/10/2014 10:51
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