I’ve worked with someone for about the last year and a few months ago he started to go a bit strange and seemed to get a bit sex obsessed and went from just normal everyday conversations to really bad innuendo, odd comments on my body, questions about my sex life and even sent me an out of the blue link to a ’Sex position of the day’ article with ‘Wanna try? wink wink’ written below it.
I ignored it all for a while and I didn’t take it as him seriously trying it on as he’s married and there’s never been any spark or attraction there even if he wasn't but the later stuff like those emails started to make me feel a bit uncomfortable and that he was going too far.
It came to a head when we got told we had to go to an event that would involve in a nights stay away and he spent the day dropping hints about hotel rooms and him not ending up in his. I eventually got fed up and snapped at him that there was no chance that he’d be ending up in mine and could he stop going on about it and acting like a horny teenager. He just said ‘fine’ and then sulked in silence for the rest of the day and since then its been awful and really awkward between us. He now acts as if he really dislikes me, talks to me as little as he can get away with and he’s taking a day off just to avoid this event.
I did try and bring it up and apologised if i’d offended him but he said i hadn’t and that he’d been joking but has continued to ignore me.
I’m not sure what I’m really asking, just don’t know what to make of it or what to do now, it’s really starting to make me dread going to work but I don’t want to make this a work issue as career wise this is the best team for me to be working in right now. I would like it just to go back to normal but i don’t know how to make that happen.
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Weird sudden flirting(??) and now the cold shoulder from colleague
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confusedandfedupp · 23/10/2014 00:51
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