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DP has just left me

6 replies

SerenaVDW · 22/10/2014 11:11

Big row. He's walked out. I know him, he won't be back. It's over. DD is six months old.

Where do I even start?

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PiperRose · 22/10/2014 11:14

Don't try and start anything at the moment. Take some time, look after yourself and your daughter.

Flowers

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whattodoforthebest2 · 22/10/2014 11:15

Was the row over something petty or something serious? Do you think once the dust has settled you'll be able to discuss it with him?

Do you have a RL friend/family you can talk to about it?

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Vivacia · 22/10/2014 11:17

One minute at a time. Are you and your daughter safe?

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TheRealJoanWarburton · 22/10/2014 13:21

Don't worry too much about anything right now. Think of first things first. Are you and your baby safe, do you have a roof over your head, is there enough to eat for today?
Next sit down with the baby, do some cuddling and playing. After a few hours, contact your parents/siblings/friends if you have someone you get along with.

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DonkeysDontRideBicycles · 22/10/2014 14:23

I am so sorry, if this came out of the blue - what rl support do you have?

See what happens this week, he may yet return. In the meantime, never be afraid to ask for help from those people you trust.

Take it day by day, try and get out once a day, find other single mums to be your friends. You and DD will be a little team, you two will develop such a strong bond. You will get through this.

Keep posting here, and take a look at Lone Parents, knowledgable and supportive.

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hellsbellsmelons · 22/10/2014 14:53

I will echo getting real life support.
Friends and/or family will be your rocks right now.
Look after yourself and DC first and foremost.

In a few days when you can think more clearly, ask for practical advice.

If you need to be doing something then contact CAB and see what benefits and housing you can get as a single parent.
Then contact CSA (or equivalent now) and find out what he should be paying in maintenance towards his child.

Deep breaths for now and RL support.

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