Dealing with DC/own disappointment in parents

[Steben]

I can't say too much as obvious of outing self but parents have always been pretty useless. I am not overly close and have worked hard over the years to distance myself from some of their behaviours. This possibly sounds more serious than it is but stuff like being dragged into their arguments, concerns over their lifestyles etc I have learnt to just think they are who they are responsible for themselves etc and I have focussed on my own family.

This weekend they let me down in a big way and here is the problem - really upset DC in the process. Luckily they are little enough to be distracted with other stuff and not focus on it but I am seething. They know I am upset but we haven't spoken. The DC keep asking when they will see them (they adore them when they an be bothered to spend time with them in their terms). I don't know how to handle this going forwards, I don't want to feel the rejection I have felt in my life when they get old enough to understand that they care but just not enough.

This is long and rambling so sorry if it makes No sense.l

[Steben]

Sorry for typos bloody phone