Can I have your views and diagnosis on what happened here and what was wrong with him?
- Man and woman in a longterm relationship with a 20 year age gap. Woman wants children, man has always said maybe
- After 7 years woman says that she definitely wants children and if he doesn't, they will regretfully have to split.
- Man says she can't leave him because she has a lot of work to do on herself, is so self-absorbed she cannot love other people, and is not fit to be a mother and that she needs to work on these issues IN the relationship with him and then they can decide together if they go forward.
- Woman says no, her biological clock is a real thing. If he feels this way she is sorry, but she has to put herself first.
- Man says this is yet another example of her appalling, selfish behaviour. That she will never learn and the choice she is about to make to leave him will ruin her life forever as she will never learn how to love properly and be a terrible mother.
- Woman eventually leaves amongst much guilt and shame at seemingly making the choice to be a "bad" person and a "terrible" mother and feels that she is living a lie and only just covering this "terrible" "unloveable" thing about her that only he knows.
- She surprises herself, meets someone wonderful, gets married and has a baby
- The ex will not leave them alone, accuses them both of being shallow, superficial, selfish and terrible parents. Sends several letters threatening solicitor involvement to to retrieve money/compensation he thinks he's owed for cohabiting with her for so many years, shouts abuse at them in the street, tells all mutual friends terrible and untrue things about them.