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Odd friendship?

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ItsANameChanger · 20/08/2014 16:50

I am a gay female and my Gf is 32.

We have been together for 3 years and recently moved in together, have a great relationship etc.

She is very good friends with an older man, a lot older. He is 59 and lives alone, no family.

She met him 10 years ago when working in his local pub, she had just broke up with someone and he asked if she wanted a drink, he sat and chatted with her for a few hours then took her in a taxi to her gf's to make up. He is a very kind man, never made a move on her just seems genuinely nice.

There's one thing that I think is a little strange though.

He knew we wanted a kitchen item for our new place, he bought it one day out of the blue and sent it to our house....it was kinda expensive, about £70 for these things.

Recently my GF has been saying to me how much she wants a coffee machine because she loves my mums. Well this friend came to our house on the weekend as he was installing a PC that he had given to us as a freebie as he had upgraded..

Well in his bag was a brand new coffee machine for us!

He doesn't have any family and never married.

Another instance is my GF met him on HIS birthday to give him gifts and have several beers, well HE had bought HER an XBox game. Said birthday is about being happy, and giving gifts makes me happy.

Weird or just Mr Nice Guy?

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SoleSource · 20/08/2014 17:29

Mr Nice, some people are ya know!

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Nomama · 20/08/2014 17:31

Odd but not weird.

It sounds as though he sees her as a sister and has sort of adopted her.

As long as you are all happy he is not taking advantage or being taken advantage of then there is no problem.

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TonyThePony · 20/08/2014 17:32

Aw, I think he sounds lovely.

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heyday · 20/08/2014 18:59

Maybe she is the daughter that he wished he had. I expect their friendship brings him a lot of happiness. Perhaps she can 'repay' him by inviting him over for dinner, drinks or perhaps baking him a cake occasionally. She is very fortunate to has such a lovely friend.

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puds11isNAUGHTYnotNAICE · 20/08/2014 19:01

Daughter he never had.

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Flossiex2 · 20/08/2014 19:04

He sounds like a giving person and gets pleasure out of it. At face value it sounds fine.

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VanitasVanitatum · 20/08/2014 19:07

He sounds lovely, if he can afford it why not.

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eyebags63 · 20/08/2014 19:15

With the age gap.... perhaps he is taking on a fatherly type role in wanting to give gifts?

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pilates · 20/08/2014 19:51

Do you think your GF is taking advantage of his good nature?

You obviously feel uncomfortable with the situation to be posting on here.

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cafesociety · 20/08/2014 21:40

Sounds like two lonely people who don't have/haven't had enough support and have found each other.

But just keep observing quietly....and I hope your gf isn't taking advantage.

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schmee · 20/08/2014 21:44

I agree, sounds like he sees her as the daughter he never had. Possibly as he's known she's gay from the beginning he can be a bit more loving/giving with her knowing that she won't see it as a come on?

Doesn't sound like your gf is taking advantage if she bought him presents for his birthday etc., but I guess she does need to be careful and reassure him that his company is present enough?

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concernedaboutheboy · 20/08/2014 21:44

Perhaps he has a lot of money that he doesn't know what to do with. If she's known him ages I'd just think 'ace, new stuff ' Grin

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Quitelikely · 20/08/2014 21:51

I don't think there is anything to worry about. If he was going to try it on he would have by now. I think you should embrace his kindness......

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Twinklestein · 20/08/2014 22:21

He's probably fantasising about you two together or he's lonely and buying a friend.

There's no reason why they couldn't just be friends, but all these presents are weird.

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