It's over

[JosieMcDozie]

And I feel nothing but relief. I'm aware this could change, but for the moment, how do I hold onto this feeling. Oh, and we're supposed to be going on holiday next week - what do I do about that??

Sorry quite random, but a bit muddled at moment. X

[Quitelikely]

More info needed!

It's good your relieved! Is it amicable? Could you face holiday together? Could you get his name changed and take a friend instead?

[JosieMcDozie]

Not really amicable - that's been the problem - him shouting at me in front of the kids, telling me I'm lazy etc etc (which I'm not - run the house single handed, look after the children , dog etc. do all the gardening, cooking, cleaning, washing and ironing). it's his money that's paid for the holiday (he says, forgetting I'm on mat leave looking after the children so he is able to work).

No chance he'd let me go with someone else. He'd rather lose the holiday entirely.

[JustDontWantToSay]

How would cancelling the holiday affect the dc? If it doesn't (unsure of age) then don't go. Nothing good can come of it!

[hamptoncourt]

It's immaterial who paid for the holiday. Who is the lead name? This is suddenly sounding familiar, did you post about this before?

If he is lead name I would still try to change one of the names to a friend and go without him.

Let him kick up, he isn't your problem anymore.

It will take a while for it to really sink in but you are free of him now, and if he gets upset, so what?

Don't go with him.

Is he really such a nasty bastard that he would deprive his DC of a holiday just so you cannot go?

[rhirhibumblebee]

Hey, glad you seem ok about it! I split up from my partner and we had a family holiday booked in two weeks time. Unfortunately for him I was lead passenger so I went with a friend! It really did me good to have the space. However, it I wasn't the lead passenger and he wouldn't let me go with a friend then I would have said sod him! I didn't want him to have any control over me. I hope you can still go, but if not - chin up, move on and you seem pretty strong now so keep at it. Better things do come xxx