There is a friend of a friend, call her A. I've known A for many years as we have this mutual friend and we've been at the same group stuff quite a few times, including nights out, parties, weekends away etc. We've always been friendly enough when circumstances bring us together. A has just moved to my town and lives a few streets away. I invited her over, or out for a drink, 2 or 3 times and she always said no because she was busy with the move/Xmas etc. So then I left the ball in her court. Didn't hear from her. OK, I thought, never mind, I get the message.
We met at something organised by our mutual friend recently and she was talking about all the town pubs and hangouts and what they do (her and her boyfriend). We chatted for a while, and were laughing about this and that, and I was telling her about other places and stuff. It all seemed very friendly. Then I suggested that she and her boyfriend come out with me and my boyfriend one night. She immediately went cold, said that when they go out they like to go up to London, not locally' and that was the end of that. OK, I get the message, but I don't get why. We've always got on in a group setting. It seems weird to be so unfriendly about meeting up for a quick drink in a local pub she'd just told me they go to.
So...long story...and here's the question. She clearly does NOT want to socialise with me and OH. That's fine, her choice. But what do I do if I walk into local pub or somewhere and she is there? Say brief hello and walk on? (and then go back to being all friendly friendly at our mutual friend's stuff? Just feels weird). Invite them to join us (it just seems so rude not to but on the other hand she obviously wouldn't really want to).
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whyamicrapatfriends · 25/07/2014 13:10
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