I would really appreciate it if anyone could give me tips to help me get over this social anxiety related to meeting people and socialising.
At school, I was never hugely popular as I was very quiet, but I always had a group of about 4 close friends. Now I am in my 20s and circumstances have changed (I've moved away from my hometown and lost touch with people) and I find myself wishing for a group of female friends that I can do things with.
I joined the Girlfriend Social website and got chatting to someone on there. She seems really nice and we share similar interests. She is keen to meet up for a coffee but I am terrified. I know it sounds ridiculous but I keep putting it off and I'm worried she'll lose interest.
I don't know why this has become such a problem. I have a normal life in terms of going to work and mixing with people (as I feel I have to) but when it comes to anything social I clam up and would rather stay at home, as that's 'safe'. I really want to meet this girl but I'm scared about actually meeting her and keeping a conversation going. I also worry that she won't like me.
I feel like it's controlling my life now. I want to join groups associated with my interests but the thought of walking into a room of strangers is my worst nightmare, so I haven't even tried. I worry that people find me unfriendly, because on the outside I look normal and put on an act so my work colleagues wouldn't know. It's affecting lunchtimes too, as I have developed a new worry about eating in front of others and so I try to eat alone at work.
Does anyone have any advice? Or understand what I mean?
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Social anxiety getting really bad :( stopping me meeting friends
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worrier008 · 25/07/2014 12:28
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