Broke up with ex 5 yrs ago. Never lived together or had kids but were a couple for 5 yrs.
We both had kids from previous relationships and obvs over that period of time we grew to know and love each other's children.
Ex was in recovery from alcoholism (11 yrs at the time) we both worked in the drugs and alcohol recovery field. He was tbh quite emotionally abusive and I drank socially which caused a lot of issues and eventually we split up which he struggled with for a while as it wasn't what he wanted (and he could no longer control me).
Fast forward 5 yrs I am getting married to someone else (he is away a lot with the forces). I am happy and until last yr maintained a "semi" friendship with ex.
Then his son died horrifically and I was there for him. My OH was not happy about this and it caused tension. Eventually ex started borrowing money from me and turned out he had massively fallen off the wagon.
He didn't pay me back and I "fessed" up to my OH who was really understanding. Then one night ex turned up here drunk. He had driven here and morally I didn't feel I could let him drive home so I chucked a sleeping bag over him on the couch.
In the middle of the night he burst into my room and tried to have sex with me. I got rid of him (NOTHING) happened (OH was furious - he was away) and a few week later ex went back to rehab and I thought sorted himself out, and paid me back.
Recently the case has been all over the local press and there has been a court case. OH away and Ex texting me letting me know about proceedings, and is now all over.
Today I took a call from him asking for a small
amount of money and I said no but then I caved in.
Feel so bloody dissapointed with myself - I know I am just enabling him and I cannot believe I have been such a soft twat or why I didn't just say no.
What do I do? Block him? ARGH?!
Thanks for allowing me to vent :)
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Please help me stop helping my ex.....
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Weathergames · 07/07/2014 17:38
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