Wondered if anyone could give me some perspective on next steps in my relationship with DH ?
Had a really bumpy 2 years following major emotional infidelity with our best friends wife which built up over a number of years (15 in total) culminating in me finding out ,and being consistently lied to over the level of contact between them.
To this day (due to my on-going trust issues & her leaving her husband) I still don't really know what is going on in his head, or if they consummated anything physically, as he is loving but detached, and our physical relationship has never recovered fully. We have both had relate counselling & when asked what is wrong (both by me & the counsellor) all I get is a 'I don't know' ....
We have 2 teenage kids and all is fine as far as day-to day getting on , but I'm still emotionally at a loss as to whether continue and hope that he will come out of this mind set of 'it's not as bad as some other people are - we're fine ' or cut my losses while I can as I don't think he will ever feel the same about me again .We have been together for 25 years.
I love him very much, but cannot live a lie and want someone who I can love that loves me equally in return .The last 2 years have been hell mentally for me ,but I am in a calm place now - Firstly , is this normal andsecondly, am I asking too much ?
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Confused but finally calm after 2 years!
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Sheraton36 · 22/06/2014 17:10
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