I honestly don't know where she is going to end up, either on the street or worse.
My ex is the mother of my son 11yrs, I left her 18 months ago because of the drinking and took him to live with me. I knew she'd be a mess when I left so I found her a flat and paid the rent for the first 6 months but couldn't afford any longer than that. Once I stopped paying she went into arrears as she couldn't find or hold down a job, she's now been evicted and is living in a hotel (she says) but I suspect it may be a refuge/hostel of some sort.
I got a court order soon after I left for our son to live with me and see his mum every 2nd weekend and Wednesday's after school, the order also forbade her from drinking within 12 hours of seeing him or when he was in her care. The last time she saw him was on a Wednesday before she was evicted and she took him to the pub FFS!!! He didn't like it and said it was scary and Mum started getting angry about you dad after she had some wine.
She still vehemently denies she is an alcoholic, I emailed her about the pub episode and she denied the whole thing despite my son telling me clearly with no prompting what had happened.
As she now has no proper address he hasn't seen her for 3 weeks, she phones him about 5 nights out of seven.
She has been drinking for a long time, when I sat with her at her rehab check-in she told the doctor she had been drinking half a bottle of vodka a day for five years!
I have let her go as best I can but I'm daunted by the prospect of being my sons only responsible parent through to age 18 and I'm now a single dad and its hard.
I have tried to shield my son from the worst aspects but he know his Mum has a problem with booze. He's a wonderful child and has been amazing the way he's dealt with everything that's happened. I don't know what to say to him about his Mum longterm though as she is in such deep denial.
He really loves his Mum and she loves him but how can I ever trust her with him again?
How can she not even admit she's an alcoholic after what it has cost her? She has lost her home, husband and now it's looking like her child as well and its just so desperately sad.
Is there anyone on here who has turned their life around from a point as low as where she has gotten to?
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Is there any hope for my alcoholic ex-wife?
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singledadinoz · 12/06/2014 04:00
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