I left my stbxh nearly a year ago - he was a bully and emotionally abusive. It's been hard, we have 3 dcs and I am still looking for somewhere to live(with relatives atm) I have learnt allsorts and received some nasty solicitors letters. However, I am happier now and doing things I wouldn't have done if still with him, my life has moved on because I have had to - I have been upset and I still have bad days but ultimately life is quite ok for me now:)What I am finding hard is that he says things to the children that he shouldn't be saying, they find this upsetting, especially the eldest and last week I had enough and (very bravely!)asked stbx not to question the children on my life, it took a lot for me to do this, I don't have any contact with him unless it's dropping off/collecting the children or emailing to see when he having them. Although we are apart I am still frightened,I am doubting myself all over again which is how he used to make me feel before - like everything was my fault. He has told the eldest he is not happy with 'what mummy said' :( this is unfair on the dcs and that's why I said something - in an attempt to protect them. Now I am afraid to see him next, he will certainly have something to say after this and he has had time to think up something:( any advice appreciated, thank you
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