Me and my partner have1 child, I have another aged 20 who lives with us. We've been together for a long time time but only lived together since we bought our house 12years ago.
My problem is that my partner really hates my older son. He would say that he doesn't but really he does. It's gone on since we met, he seems jealous of our connection. The last few years have been hell. My son is a lovely bright boy but has never achieved as well as he might and has been a very difficult teen. His self esteem is not great and he drinks too much and takes recreational drugs. I worry about him constantly.
Late last year I sought counselling and eventually my partner went along too ( separately and reluctantly). Things improved. But today Dp totally had a go at my son about something ridiculous, it escalated into a full scale argument. My youngest was frightened and distressed as was I. This came out of the blue and was completely unjustified. I feel he is damaging us all. He shouted at me and now hasn't spoken to me all day. Something has snapped in me today after all the years of trying to keep it together and I just don't think I can anymore. But I feel stuck here, my younger son, our house. I work part time albeit in a good job. The house is in his name even although I put down a huge deposit and all my wages go on food, holidays etc. Not sure I would get a mortgage in my own right.
He won't speak to me, not sure that he's able to. He's not a bad man and really my son is the only thing we argue about. But when it blows up he's horrible. He's previously been very nasty indeed and told me I have no friends etc etc. Sometimes after an argument he doesn't speak to me for days/weeks.its been so much better recently that the reversion to past horrors has hit me badly. I cannot live like this but can't see a way out.
What should I do?
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Bobbix · 12/04/2014 23:18
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