Im so worried reading the hoarding thread. My DP is the same though since I've moved in, in January, he has had a good clear out, but not without pain and arguments.
Last night I asked that he doesn't keep moving stuff into spaces I create. He got into a bad mental space in response to my request because it's the argument we always come back to, he wanted to be left alone to process his feelings but I was impatient and wanted to hammer it out.
When we had both calmed down after a huge shouty angry argument we sat up late talking.
He said that he worries about us getting our own house together because we might continue to fight over these issues. (this worries e because I hear that as him not willing to compromise).
He suggested us postponing our wedding until we can be sure that we will be happy living together. In some ways I think this is a sensible suggestion which will protect us both in the long run but obviously it has hurt me and tainted our engagement (we're due to be married in August).
I don't know what to do from here.
Any advice gratefully received, thank you.
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painpaingoawaycomeagainanother · 04/04/2014 11:57
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