Am posting as I need some level headed views about my life with DH. It's nothing dreadful - it's just been like this for years, I'm unhappy and don't know how to make life better.
If we have any disagreements - normal stuff about how to deal with the kids, or disagreements with each other he refuses to talk. He tells me to leave it. If I speak in an assertive way - thoughts, facts, feelings type approach about these difficulties, he accuses me of wanting to start an argument . He does not like me to pursue such things as in his words, he doesn't like conflict. I never push any more than this as he will not talk to me for extended periods of time. He has only ever raised his voice to me once - at which point he told me to leave the room as he was so angry. The result is a bigger and bigger wall being built between us. It's been like this for years. I thought it would change. I feel like I don't know my own mind anymore. I have been diagnosed with mild anxiety and depression and think that our relationship is a huge contribution to this. I am not dealing with this well.
We have been to counselling, but he refuses to go again.
What do I do? How do I make life better? Am i just making a fuss about nothing? All perspectives welcomed. Thank you.
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Some perspective please....
muffinbottom · 27/02/2014 21:51
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