Can anyone empathise?
My parents are late 80s, still managing to live independently but their marriage is not great and they live quite separate lives- they neither eat nor sleep together and 'live' in opposite ends of the house ( which is small.)
I see them roughly once every 2-3 months and it's a 5 hr trip each way.
The speak to each other- it's not THAT bad- but my mum constantly criticises my dad in front of me. I'd only been there for an hour before she was calling him a silly fool.
I find the whole thing very stressful- they are both going deaf so the TV is on loudly ( and often) and they each mishear things in conversation so it all gets really complicated as you can imagine.
They have 3 bedrooms ( one each) and I have the spare room- my old room when I used to live at home.
I am tempted to stay at a Premier Inn just so I can have some 'me' time and not be with them 24/7, which sounds awful as I am not there that often.
They are both always tired and in bed sometimes by 8pm.
Although they say I don't wake them up I am still conscious of noise and tip-toe around after they have gone to bed.
I am in a dilemma over whether to sleep in a hotel. I can't expect them to change or sort out their marriage now or for me (it's my father who has withdrawn and doesn't sit with my mum in the same room) but at the same time wonder if I ought to speak out and say how horrible it is staying when they live as they do.?
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desperatedaughter1 · 27/02/2014 16:00
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