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I still love my ex.

(8 Posts)
superstarheartbreaker Wed 19-Feb-14 22:57:47

Even though he is an arse and I'm better off alone. I really miss him. It's been a month. I don't want him back as he hurt me badly but I love him. Does this make sense?

50pchair Wed 19-Feb-14 23:03:18

Yes, it's early days. I'm 10 months on from mine. He was abusive, emotionally and financial. I don't miss that shit but I miss him. However everyone tells me I look better and seem better. I've decided my heart/emotions can't be trusted as I love him even though my head knows he's a bad, bad man.

A month in, I was doing terribly. Be kind to yourself.

LadyHH Wed 19-Feb-14 23:04:33

I still love my ex after 9 yrs. He was/is an alcoholic and I have helped/ enabled him all these yrs. he cheated. We reconciled. The deal breaker for me was the drink and failure to move on and into work (what MN would call a cocklodger). Anyway, I still bail him out, his parents are dead. H2 doesn't know. :-(

Apocalypto Wed 19-Feb-14 23:13:36

I still bail him out, his parents are dead. H2 doesn't know.

Did you just write that you spend family money on subsidising your waster ex husband?

jynier Thu 20-Feb-14 00:01:29

I love my ex; wish that I didn't! Miss everything about our life together and our plans for the future! All smashed ...

Don't end up like me, OP! Life is so very short; good luck!

I still loved my abusive and frankly evil ex for a long time. Time is the only thing that will solve that I'm afraid. Time and distance. It's been 8 years now and I don't love him anymore. Just focus on keeping well away my dear.

superstarheartbreaker Thu 20-Feb-14 07:19:17

Thanks all. I was only with mine for five months which is a long time for me so I feel that I should nit be so upset.

CogitoErgoSometimes Thu 20-Feb-14 07:45:32

Short relationships can be very intense and, if he hurt you very badly, there was clearly a lot of emotion involved. It doesn't sound like 'love' however. The best way to get over a bad experience is to give yourself as little time as possible to dwell and mull over the past. Fill your diary, be with people, do interesting stuff... make a conscious effort to look forward rather than back.

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