I've name changed for this.
I suspect I am being a snob but would like to know if others have been in a similar situation at all.
I'm in a fairly new-ish lesbian relationship (I'm bi). I have a teenage DD. My partner has a son. Things have developed quite intensely and we've been talking about the future a lot. I don't know if I'm getting cold feet in general about the speed with which things are moving and therefore looking for problems in the relationship, or if it really is an issue.
When we first met (first few dates) she had no trace of an accent. Over time, this has changed so that occasionally she speaks in neutral tones and other times her accent is very regional (don't want to give away which region for fear of outing myself, but imagine broad Yorkshire or something whereas before it'd been RP). Other things that have cropped up is her describing her son as "sexy", admitting that she gets takeaways or eats out most days with her son (i.e. McDonald's, KFC), smoking (not around him, outside, but she also still smoked a little when pregnant with him) and admitting to sometimes smacking him.
I'm not perfect in any way, but some of this stuff really sits uncomfortably with me and I worry that if the relationship continues and we ever did have a child together, how in God's name we'd ever be on the same page (I did extended breastfeeding, co-sleeping, organic everything, didn't smoke...)
I like 'naice' stuff (not obsessively, but I guess I have quite middle class tastes). I like period features, sash windows and floor to ceiling books. She likes modern houses, PVC windows and TV. Most of my friends (not all) are professionals. Few of hers are.
I feel like a total bitch writing this because, at the end of the day, I do love her. I just don't know if that's enough and worry that our differences will become more pronounced as time goes on. I don't know if the issues are class/education, the fact that we're both women and mothers and so will automatically judge the other's child-rearing. Nor do I know if this can be overcome.
Has anyone had any similar relationships? Is mine doomed?
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Can a relationship where you're from different social classes ever work?
RelationshipSnob · 10/02/2014 10:38
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