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omg anxiety over this...

(25 Posts)
wontletmesignin Tue 24-Dec-13 16:49:37

I bought ds3's dad a gift for christmas ages ago. Put it with the pile of presents and forgot about it.

I bought another gift. So now theres two.

Its making me feel anxious as im giving him two gifts. Stupid, i know.

To be fair ...the first one i bought was from ds and is plain to see. The second one i had both me and ds in mind when buying it.

Would you think anything if you got two gifts off your childs father who you are no longer with?

mammadiggingdeep Tue 24-Dec-13 16:50:57

I'd think you're a grown up person with no bad feeling and a kind heart.

Does it matter what he thinks of you?

tribpot Tue 24-Dec-13 16:53:44

Sounds a bit like you're over-thinking it. Why not keep the one that isn't from your ds, and use it next year/give it to someone else?

80sdrummer Tue 24-Dec-13 16:55:20

I'd think that you were mature, thoughtful and generous and had a good relationship with your ex?

wontletmesignin Tue 24-Dec-13 16:57:05

Yes i over think everything. My anxiety has been up lately, so probably the reason behind this freak out - over something so small!

I had thought about taking one gift away, but then i dont think one or the other is good enough on their own.

I dont suppose it does matter what he thinks of me, on the big scale of things.

Anxiety...how i hate it

tribpot Tue 24-Dec-13 16:58:14

I know - wrap them up as one present. That way it looks like one but you don't have to worry that either is too small on its own. Not that it matters in the slightest but I thought this might be the best remedy for your anxiety.

wontletmesignin Tue 24-Dec-13 16:58:15

Yes we have a great relationship

wontletmesignin Tue 24-Dec-13 17:04:00

Great idea tribpot that might help.

Thank you.

mammadiggingdeep Tue 24-Dec-13 17:08:27

Yes, wrap as one, then tuck them under pressies and forget about it.

Anxiety is a bastard!

wontletmesignin Tue 24-Dec-13 17:10:59

It really is mamma. Who'd of thought giving presents could cause so much anxiety ha. Its ridiculous how it has made me feel hmm

mammadiggingdeep Tue 24-Dec-13 17:43:00

I understand that. Sometimes I'll stress over the smallest thing and its not til I've stepped away and say, the next day I realise that it was my anxiety 'thing'. Just take a deep breath and occupy yourself elsewhere... smile like starting the Xmas choccies smile xx

Pheonixisrising Tue 24-Dec-13 18:02:36

it just shows what a caring person you are

get those chocolates open now , start scoffing and relax

merry Christmas from a new user

wontletmesignin Tue 24-Dec-13 18:03:44

Thank you all. Chocolate sounds like a very good plan fgrin

Merry Christmas!!

mammadiggingdeep Tue 24-Dec-13 18:04:08

Phoenix...is that who I think it is???

Pheonixisrising Tue 24-Dec-13 18:36:28

just joined this evening

this question popped my mumsnet cherry !

mammadiggingdeep Tue 24-Dec-13 19:09:12

Oh right!! Thought you were another poster...

Welcome though smile

Cabrinha Tue 24-Dec-13 20:26:13

I may have you muddled up with someone... but have you recently split up with a wanker of an ex, and this ex is a different one that you want to get back with? In which case, I can see why you're overthinking presents!

Fab idea from poster above who said just wrap them up together!

wontletmesignin Tue 24-Dec-13 21:08:46

Yes cabrinha. That's me.
Yup have to agree. Wrapping them together eased my anxiety.

Now everything is prepared for tomorrow, i am feeling a lot calmer woohoo!

wontletmesignin Wed 25-Dec-13 13:59:04

He was chuffed to bits with his pressies grin
He got me a lovely jacket fgrin

tribpot Wed 25-Dec-13 14:16:30

All good! Have a lovely day.

Cabrinha Wed 25-Dec-13 15:28:07

Ah that's nice to hear!

Ledkr Wed 25-Dec-13 15:48:58

I buy for exh his dp (ow) and their two dds as they are my children's family. It's a great lesson for my own dc and I have to say they also buy gifts for my dd as does my ex mil. Complicated but lovely too.

wontletmesignin Wed 25-Dec-13 17:15:50

Thank you. We have all had a great day. Really, really tired now!
Hope you have all had an amazing day!

Ledkr that is really good. Like you say, it is a good lesson for the kids too.
It sounds more lovely than complicated smile

Whatnext074 Thu 26-Dec-13 22:00:45

Phoenix - welcome, good name, that was going to be my name change which may have confused mamma. I'll have to think again...

wontletmesignin - glad you had a good day and hope the anxiety calms soon for you.

tiamariaxxx Thu 26-Dec-13 22:07:24

Doesnt matter i dont think smile

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